Love Anthony is now in paperback, which means, among other
things, that it has a new cover design.
I love the new cover. I
think it’s eye-catching and aesthetically pleasing, and the image is even
highly relevant to the story. Books
covers are so important. It’s the
first thing a potential reader sees and can be the singular, pivotal reason why
someone picks that book up and decides to see what’s inside or alternatively
decides to walk away and choose something else. The entire content of book can be deemed desirable or
undesirable based on a quick glance at the cover. So many unspoken assumptions are made about the story on the
inside based on the cover on the outside.
This has me thinking about autism. I’ve been speaking about autism at book
events since September, and there are a lot of false assumptions circulating
out there, especially among people not directly affected by autism—so many misconceptions
based on a quick glance at someone’s “outside cover” with little or no
experience with the “inside story.” Many of these misconceptions have been told and retold for so
long, they’ve reached an almost urban myth status.
- · Nonverbal people with autism don’t understand language.
- · People with autism are cognitively impaired, or less nicely put, mentally retarded.
- · People with autism don’t feel love.
Most people I talk with who aren’t directly
affected by autism often admit to me that the sum total of what they know about
it was gleaned from Dustin Hoffman’s performance in Rain Man.
So let’s “open the book” and debunk these
myths.
Myth #1: Nonverbal people with autism don’t understand language.
It’s possible that for some nonverbal autistic
people, language is not intelligible.
But what if it is? Can you
know for sure? I think it’s safer
and far more humane to assume that all nonverbal people with autism have inner
voices. They understand what
you’re saying. And they are
listening.
I’d like to share a couple of examples here of
nonverbal autistic people, heroes really, who have battled and broken through
the silence to reveal their inner voices.
Carly Fleishman: “I want people to understand
that autistic people are people and we all have an inner voice.”
Elizabeth Bonker: “On the dark side is the
traditional belief that we have no language. Free your minds from disbelief.”
Myth #2: People with autism are cognitively impaired.
Some people with autism do have some
additional cognitive challenges, but IQ tests that rely on expression of
language or pointing, outputs that can be unavailable or severely impaired in
some autistic people, aren’t going to be sensitive enough to reveal to the
intelligence that might lie within.
Autism does not equal unintelligent. Autism does not equal unable to
learn. In fact, some of the
smartest people living on the planet today have Asperger’s--Temple Grandin and
Daniel Tammet, to name two. It’s been speculated by many that if Albert Einstein, Thomas Jefferson, and Wolfgang Mozart were
alive today, they’d be diagnosed on the spectrum. A pretty smart crowd, if you ask me.
Myth #3: Autistic people don’t feel love.
I recently did a book event with AndrewSolomon, author of Far from the Tree,
on World Autism Day in Toronto, and he admitted to having this misapprehension
prior to doing the research for his book.
It’s easy to see where this preconception
comes from, especially if viewed from a distance, “from the cover” so to
speak. If a child can’t say “I
love you,” if he doesn’t like to be hugged, if he can’t make eye contact and
exchange all the magic that can happen in a shared gaze, if love can’t be
reciprocated in the ways we traditionally show and feel it, is love
there?
It is.
Without question.
All of the parents I know and spoke with about
autism love their autistic kids and feel loved in return. And I’ve witnessed it—in a knowing
smile, in an exuberant hand flapping, in an unspoken energy, in how hard these
kids work to please their parents.
Myth #4: People with autism are poor social communicators.
Wait, you’re thinking, this one can’t be a
myth. This is the actual clinical
description of autism. According
to DSM IV, autism is characterized by difficulties in social interaction,
verbal and nonverbal communication, and repetitive, restrictive behaviors. Even people with
autism who can speak have trouble communicating, especially with comprehension
of double meaning, facial expression, and body language. This deficit in social communication is
a DEFINING symptom of autism.
So if it’s a defining symptom, how can it be a
myth?
In March, I attended the Tucson Festival of
Books to promote Love Anthony. In addition to the two panels I was on
with other fiction writers, I was scheduled to be on a speaking panel with JohnElder Robison. John has written
three books—Look Me in the Eye, Be Different, and Raising Cubby. John
has Asperger’s.
About ten minutes before our scheduled time to
begin, the room was already filled to capacity (300) with people standing in
the hall, willing to stay and only listen. John arrived, and I introduced myself. He said hello, gave me a courtesy,
fleeting moment of eye contact, and then he paced.
We were supposed to sit side-by-side at a
table before set microphones and cards bearing our names and next to a
moderator, but John wasn’t going to be able to sit still. He needed to stand and move. The organizers adjusted, and I decided
to join him and stand, too. Meanwhile,
John continued moving, touching everything on the table as he passed it.
I do a lot of speaking, and I like to think
I’m pretty good at it. One of the
challenges in speaking in front of an audience of 300 is to make everyone feel
included, like they’re part of an intimate conversation. It involves not just getting up and
talking but talking TO PEOPLE, engaging them in what you have to say, sharing
an experience together. In short,
it involves social communication.
And here is John, pacing around with
Asperger’s.
So I thought to myself, “Okay, Lisa. You’re probably going to have carry
this hour. He’s not going to be
able to do this.”
I couldn’t have been more wrong. He was AWESOME! He was smart, funny, dynamic, and
incredibly entertaining. HE was
the one who could’ve carried the whole hour (and pretty much did). After our presentation, the line of
people waiting to connect with him personally and have books signed far
exceeded the line of people in front of me.
So there you go. John has autism, AND he’s an exceptional communicator. Myth busted.
The great lesson in all of this has been told
to me over and over by parents of children with autism. “If you’ve met one child with autism,
you’ve met one child with autism.”
Or, put another way—please don’t judge a book by its cover.